Dating...

Dating in the 70's was much different then it is now and that was while I was still in high school. In the year 2001 I became single again. I dated here and there but they would instantly talk about when we get married...? Scare me...Slow down. So I took a brake from dating.

Months later someone that I thought I knew, asked me out. We dated for about a year but it seamed as if he would pick a fight and then we would be on a brake. While on a trip to George to visit his family for thanks-giving he was still doing this. He would then disappear for hours afterwards. Only to try to make up before morning, probably so that his family wouldn't question it. After we got home he finally told me that he had some business deals that he was taking care of. He paid his way out of those deals and now felt safe in telling me about them. Something about one of his prostitutes had been murdered...I knew him and his wife while they were still married. Knew him 16 years before I ever dated him. His wife never knew about this and still doesn't to this day. I brake up for good and immediately went to the doctor and had a full battery of tests done and followed up with more later.

Months later I was feeling daring and started dating another man. We also dated for about a year. He was ten years my senior but I didn't find that to be a problem. However; from time to time he would get into a cranky mood and that was a problem. He was a contract negotiator for electronic warfare for the government, so I could see where it would be stressful. Of course doing that kind of work he was unable to discuss it. His grandkids come down from Washington for two weeks to visit. We had gone out for a drive and once again he got cranky...The little three year old girl starts singing this song, "Grandpa's got issues, grandpa's got issues...." Over and over again.... Oh my god, I had to laugh. We broke up shortly after that.

For the next 2 1/2 years I didn't date. I started school and was concentrating on my studies. That worked for a while but I couldn't keep avoiding the fact that I don't like being single. I can support myself and I like my company but I would like to share my life with someone. Even in my marriage I didn't feel like I had that.

That brings me to the e-dating thing, with 29 dominations of yada...yada...yada. We've all seen the advertisement. I just want to cut the crap and find the one that it's compatible with me. This is how I met Eric and yes...we are compatible but he didn't have the spark for me. So, I was talking (e-mailing) this other one and I don't know if I quit sending messages or he quit sending me messages, but apparently there wasn't anything there either. Then, I was talking to another one. Well he was talking, I couldn't get a word in edgewise. The part that got me was he didn't have a cell phone because of bad credit and was having a hard time finding a house because of bad credit and...? I was seeing RED flags?! There were others that I was e-mailing and I maybe very critical but one little wrong word and I can't get it out of my mind. I end it and go to the next.

Now, I'm talking to another one. We talk on the phone for hours...hours... and it never seams like we've been on the phone long at all. After I get off the phone I realize that it's after midnight. We have talked about e*v*e*r*y*t*h*i*n*g and feel very computable doing it. He was also married for over 20 years and hasn't dated much. So far...So good. ;)